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Nov 30, 2023Liked by Anton Zaides

Ow the desire to being passive aggressive sending this to some people in the company. But seriously, that is some hard feedback since you are pointing to some insecurities. Even harder dealing higher-ups or diagonally.

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I think all of us were in both sides, so it's easier to feel the insecurities of the other side.

Good callout on the higher-ups - It's definitely much harder. I think as a manager, you should never say it to your people. This can completely break the relationship, you should make them feel confident to make decisions (and mistakes).

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Another one I have seen that gets used - "see you in incident / sev review".

Unfortunately, this behavior is not uncommon. I don't like tolerating it and make it clear to the person to have a discussion rather than say that.

Good writing! Short and hits hard.

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This one quite aggresive, and definitely can't be tolerated. If the person has such strong doubts about the decision, it might interfere with the actual implementation.

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Great article!

It also creates a bad environment where people are afraid to bring up suggestions and take risks or say an opposing opinion.

I believe that's a subject for a whole other article.

By the way, there's another brother everyone forget about.

I informed you thusly

- Sheldon Lee Cooper

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Thanks!

"I informed you thusly" - This one fortunately I never heard IRL 😂

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Nov 28, 2023Liked by Anton Zaides

Me too fall into the trap of “desiring credit”, now that I identified and labeled that trap, I can now catch myself. Excellent writing and thank you.

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Thanks Anjana! Can't say it's easy, but awareness is the first step :)

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Great article! It's normal to desire credit for being right (and oh is it satisfying!), but constructive feedback on moving forward when something goes wrong is a much better road to take

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Thank you Leonardo. It's definitely super satisfying :)

The hard part for me was to reconcile how much it annoys me when other people do it, and how often I do it myself... Once I started to notice, I handled both cases much better.

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Very good article

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Thank you Madan Kumar! 🙏

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